The “Me” Mentality and the One Another Outlook

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I’ve talked before about the many self-help books on the market right now that promote Me Mentality. Words like self-care, self-love, and self-mindfulness abound. We are encouraged to not let others tell us what to do, to take time for ourselves, to start saying “no” to the needs of others and start paying attention to our own needs.

We all know that sometimes we do need to say “no,” that we don’t always need to listen to others, that we need to be true to ourselves and what we know is right. Even the Lord Himself took time away from the crowds. However, the proportion of self-care to caring for others in today’s society is very different from what God says in His Word.

So I did something.

Instead of focusing on the Me Mentality, I focused on the One Another

Outlook, meaning that I looked up the words “one another” in a concordance. I mean, I haven’t read any verses about putting ourselves first, so I looked up verses focusing on how we are to treat one another. Let me just say, there are a BUNCH of them.

Here are just 10.

1. Romans 12:10 —  So we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another.

2. Romans 12:16 — Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight.

3. Romans 15:7 — Therefore welcome one another as Christ has welcomed you, for the glory of God.

4. Romans 15:14 — I myself am satisfied about you, my brothers, that you yourselves are full of goodness, filled with all knowledge and able to instruct one another.

5. Galatians 5:13 — For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. 

6. Galatians 6:2 — Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.

7. Ephesians 4:32 — Be kind to one another, tenderhearted …

8. Ephesians 4:32 — Forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

9. 1 Thessalonians 4:18 — Therefore encourage one another with these words.

10. 1 Thessalonians 5:25 — See that no one repays anyone evil for evil, but always seek to do good to one another and to everyone.

That’s quite a list of responsibilities we have as Christ-followers.

So yes, let’s occasionally take time to rest, but let’s focus on the way we’re to treat others.

And let’s teach out kids to do the same both by our words and by example.



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